Monday's are always busy days for us.
The food has to be delivered in lots of different directions for the pre schools.
We often have visitors and volunteers who like to go along for the ride.
Yesterday
we had three new volunteers, all from my home country of Australia. It
is funny to hear all these Australian accents around the office!
They were able to go on the food run to Chukumuk ..where they also helped install two stoves and delivered food to families.
They
also got to visit a family who has been sponsored to start their own
business selling second hand shoes...and another family who is having
construction started on a new house.
Gloria , Sandra and I went to visit the grandparents in San Jorge.
The house is clean and there is room for the children to stay there.
The grandfather is elderly and very, very strict. He is also in pain from an operation that he has had on his back and leg.
We sat and talked to the grandparents for about an hour, with the
four children sitting there. ( the mother still has the 4 year old with
her) I would have preferred that they were not there but the
grandparents wanted to talk in front of them so that there was no
misunderstandings.
The grandparents are the parents of the father of the five children.
It appears that the mother of these five children...was not the first wife
According to the grandparents, their son did very well when he was with his first wife and he has four children with her.
Then he met the mother of the five children and he left the first wife and went to live with the second wife.
The first wife and the grandchildren are from San Jorge and appear to be very connected to the family.
The grandparents have already given the son's piece of land into the names of his 4 children from his first wife .
The
second wife ( this was not a formal marriage) according to the
grandparents lured their son away, she was already drinking and she
turned him into a heavy drinker. They said that she would bring him
lunch every day where he worked and stick a small flask into his lunch
so that he could drink during the day.
One of his brother's eventually found the father
sitting in a park in very bad physical shape, they took him home, got
him into hospital ,cared for him , spent a lot of money on his medical
care, the doctor eventually told them that the father had cirrhosis and
would not be cured but could live longer if they gave him careful
attention. They had him at home and he was doing much better, then
according to the grandfather, the second wife called up and asked him to
come and visit them, ..against the family wishes, he went and when he
got there he started
drinking and died the next day.
They are very bitter about this woman and feel that she is responsible for the death of their son.
The
grandfather told me that when the children turned up , that they really
did not know them. They had only seen them maybe once or twice before.
But he said that he thought that they could live with them and that
they would be able to help out around the house.
They have built a shoe shine box for the 12 year old so that he
can go and shine shoes. The money that the earns , the grandmother
collects and keeps for him. She says that she is using this to buy his
clothes. He did , indeed have some brand new clothes from a few weeks
ago but she also complained that some days he does not bring any money
home and she suspects that he is using that money to buy food in the
street.
The eldest girl, Karina who is 16 years old is basically looking
after the younger children. The grandmother commented that sometimes she
hits the younger ones.
The grandfather is not happy with
the girl who is approx. 11 years old. He says that she is rude and she
will not study in school and she talks back to the teachers.
He is very embarrassed by this because his children always got good report cards and attention at school.
The
grandparents were supposed to go to court yesterday but decided to wait
and talk to us first and listen to what we had to say.
We offered them the option that we could take the
children to live under the supervision of Mayan Families but that it
would have to be done legally..and that we would have a full time
caretaker.
That the children would go to school and could also do after school classes etc.
That
they would be free to go back to San Jorge whenever the grandparents
wanted them to come , either permanently or just to visit for special
occassions.
That we would be responsible for their food , clothing , shoes , education and medical care.
The
grandfather offered that we could do all that and rent them a house in
San Jorge ..where the children could live alone with Karina to care for
them and we could have a woman there to supervise them.
We said that we did not care for that idea.
We don't like the idea of the children living alone.
We think it would be very difficult to find someone in San Jorge who would be able to give them the support that they need.
The grandfather then said that he would like the 12 year old boy to come to work with us so that he could learn to work.
We
offered that the 12 yr old boy, Karina and the other two girls, 11 yrs
old and 8 yrs old. could come to the office compound daily....5 days a
week and take computer classes, which are from
9.am.
till 11.30a.m. and then they could have lunch. Then Karina and the
boy can help around the office, the two younger ones can jump on the
trampoline, take music classes and ( our idea...is just to have fun as
kids!)
We agreed that we would pay their bus fares daily and that they
would arrive and leave at a set time so that the grandparents would know
when they were expected home.
The grandparents liked this idea.
The kids all want to come and live at Mayan Families but they were
also very keen on this idea of being able to come daily to classes etc.
Every
decision here is made with the family. So the grandparents said that
they would have to call a family meeting with all his children and they
would make a family decision about this.
We left, I felt, on very good terms with the grandparents.
I
would have liked to have scooped these children up and taken them with
us. Especially, the 8 year old girl who picks at her fingernails all
the time and looks so lost.
I really did not like them having to listen to how bad the family
thought their mother was ...but things are not shielded from children
here and I am sure that they have heard it all before.
The grandfather said he would give us a decision in the next few days.
I am hopeful, at least, that the children will be able to come to the
office 5 days a week to be able to have a break.
The
grandparents also agreed that they would let the children go to the
Elderly Care program to eat lunch every day. The children all insist
that they are very hungry and do not get enough to eat.
After coming back to the office,
there
was one of our sponsored students , Petronila who is 9 years old. She
was being carried on her elderly father's back, her mother was also with
them, looking very worried.
Petronila was obviously very ill , the doctor suspected that she
had a fractured clavicle ...so we called the bomberos ...which is the
local ambulance ...and for a small donation , they took the family,
accompanied by a Mayan Families staff member ( the family does not speak
Spanish...they speak Kakchiquel) to the hospital. If we send someone
by ambulance they get attended to much , much faster...they go straight
into the emergency room, rather than waiting for hours outside . Even
so , it was many hours that the family was at the hospital. After x
rays..it was decided that her clavicle was o.k. but the hospital
suspects that Petronila has tuberculosis.
If so, others in the family may also have it. Today , Tuesday , the
family has to come back for more tests. We will send someone to
accompany them. We hope that they will be able to get to the hospital,
they live in a very mountainous area...very isolated and it is hard for
them to walk so far, especially carrying Petronila on their back. This
family lost everything back in 2010 when Tropical Storm Agatha caused
such destruction from mudslides. They lost their house and were living
in a Shelterbox tent that we erected. I don't know whether they have
managed to rebuild or not yet.
Another one of our students came to the office later
in the afternoon. She needed to talk to someone and quite often , we
are the only place for some kids to be able to come.
She has
been sponsored by us for a long time but this is the first time , she
has ever come in and asked to talk about what is going on with her. Once
she started talking, the tears started flowing. Jakelin is 18 years
old. She is the oldest of five children. Her mother left them all to
marry a man who did not want to take on the children. They all stayed
with the grandmother and were raised by her. The grandmother and the
children had a cart that they sold fruit from on the street and that is
how they made their living.
Earlier this year the grandmother died. Reluctantly, the mother took them to live with her and the step father.
Without
the grandmother, the kids have not had the capital to buy fruit to be
able to sell on their cart. The mother is berating Jakelin for not
working and not helping with the expenses of the home. Jakelin came to
see if we had work for her, she said that she was willing to work for
any amount, she just wanted to make the situation better at home. She
feels that her mother does not love her at all and that she and her
siblings are a nuisance to the mother and the step father.
We asked her does she still have the cart and she says that she has
the cart and that she and the siblings want to go back to work but they
do not have the capital to be able to do so.
We are hoping
that someone would like to give Jakelin $200 US so that she can buy her
fruit and other things she needs to sell. She has been working for 12
years on the cart...since she was 6 years old, she knows what to do ,
she knows how to do it...she just needs this money to be able to start.
Jakelin is hoping that once the business is going again that she
will be able to afford to move her siblings into their own place.
Donations
are coming in for the Tamale baskets and we are busy organizing
Christmas parties for all the sponsored children and their siblings.
. Please keep your fingers crossed that we have enough toys for all the children.!
It
is not too late to send in a donation for us to be able to buy toys
here..either for your sponsored student or for children in general.
( we have some wonderful teddy bears that are nearly 3 feet high and they are only $20...!)
Sharon
Sharon Smart-Poage
MAYAN FAMILIES
a registered 501.(c).(3) Non Profit Charity